Sharing the news can be one of the most painful parts of your loss, especially if; there are quite a few people involved; you were already in your second trimester; it is not your first miscarriage. Just saying the words, “I have had a miscarriage” or “I have lost my baby”, intensifies your feelings and reiterates the reality of it all over again.

Personally telling close friends and relations may be hard but necessary for future relations. It is difficult to consider others’ feelings when your own are all so encompassing but do the best you can. If they live close by perhaps have someone you trust organise a get-to-gether so you can tell them all yourselves in one go. It may be that your partner could handle it better than you. Grandparents can be particularly upset but do not necessarily show it, understanding that your feelings are more important. If you hadn’t told many people you were pregnant, it can be a blessing.

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