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Who We Are

Miscarriage Support Auckland began as two women friends looking for answers while helping support each other after experiencing a miscarriage. In 1985 in response to a survey by a Women’s Magazine and encouragement of staff from National Women’s Hospital, they eventually formed a small independent group of volunteers of various ages who had all experienced the loss of their own babies. They also produced pamphlets named ‘Understanding Miscarriage’ and a book called ‘Coping with Miscarriage’ by the founders, Sandra van Eden and Kitch Cuthburt.

The website information of today was originally sourced from the book in 2000 and modified over the years since by Vonney Allan, courtesy of our webmistress Julie @ Dreamscape. Our website is a reflection of Vonney’s and the Miscarriage Support Auckland committee’s knowledge and experience. We strived to provide emotional peer support and information for women and their families and friends during and after miscarriage and also subsequent pregnancies. Hopefully our website will be useful in helping you come to terms with your grief, pain and isolation that often follows miscarriage, while also recognising that everybody’s experience is unique.

No-one would ever have thought that miscarriage information would still be needed in this century but obviously it is from the feedback and statistics. The Miscarriage Support Auckland website attracted over 20 million hits in the year 2016 – 2017. In February and March alone there were 2 million per month.

Facebook and Pinterest pages are available and ‘Understanding Miscarriage‘ pamphlets are regularly sent out by the thousands per annum, mainly to hospitals and other medical professionals as well as individuals.

There are other miscarriage groups nation-wide in NZ (see ‘Independent Support Groups in NZ) and they all operate separately and differently. There are some dedicated to understanding miscarriage only and others offer miscarriage support plus a variety of other services e.g. Sands (whose address is at the top of our links list) have groups in many areas of NZ that hold baby loss meetings. They primarily offered support for stillbirths but expanded to other baby losses.


We have found that it is advisable for everyone’s benefit to have a gap of at least 2 years after a miscarriage before applying to volunteer. Age is not necessarily a barrier as we all have our own stories, life experiences and skills. Each member contributes a different viewpoint so that we cover as many aspects of dealing with miscarriage that we can.

Please feel free to email us for initial contact. We are basically looking for women who are dependable, trustworthy (we are required to adhere to the Privacy Act which includes confidentiality), composed and empathetic.

Our support calls are now kindly responded to in cooperation with the Sands Group in Auckland.

As avenues of communication are now more impersonal, when we do receive recognition by an accolade or donation, we get the ‘feel good’ feeling we all need to continue our work.

Our Aims

  • Provide emotional and psychological peer support for women and their families during and after miscarriage and also subsequent pregnancies. We offer them suggestions to help with healing, rather than rescue them, and giving them hope for the future.

  • Promote understanding in the community about the consequences of miscarriage and the resulting grief for women and their families.
  • Help to achieve a greater level of understanding on the part of health professionals about the psychological consequences of miscarriage on their patients, so they do not minimize or invalidate their patients’ feelings.
  • Act as advocate.
  • Promote a more appropriate name that would better describe and validate our feelings such as ‘premature stillbirth’. (As a group we feel the word ‘miscarriage’ does not adequately or sensitively describe what is often the trauma associated with an early pregnancy death. What we experienced was both a birth and a death.)

Kind regards and take care,

Vonney Allan,
Miscarriage Support Auckland Inc.,
Auckland, New Zealand.

Support Ph. 0508 72 63 72 (Sands)

Understanding Miscarriage Pamphlets

brochureA4 pamphlet ‘Understanding Miscarriage’ which provides a synopsis of this website suitable for lay readers.

To order or download

Hi Vonney – It’s always nice to hear from you. I think you’re doing amazing work. Your website is one of the best I’ve encountered in my 7 years of writing for Bella-On-line.
Christine , Bella-On-line

Links checked June 2015