our
partners
Most couples find grief has a deep impact on their relationship. It is
most important that we accept that his grief will be different from ours.
This can be explained by the different rates of bonding experienced by
the parents during pregnancy, see below. Note that between two and three
months, her bond is about three times his, which is reflected in the differing
depths of grief.
parents and mourning - Peppers L &
Knapp R
| |
"Miscarriage had a very destructive effect on our relationship.
We were both suffering greatly, yet so overwhelmed by our own feelings
we failed to recognise each other's suffering and need for support.
Then we blamed each other for not meeting our individual needs.
If only we had talked more." Sandra
|
|
Be aware that some women have an expectation that their partner can or
even should meet all their needs for emotional support. This is not only
unrealistic, but places an unfair burden on them. It is really important
to get professional help if this situation is not resolved. It will not
go away.
Sexual relations
While some women look forward to resuming their
sexual relationship as soon as possible, many do not. There are a variety
of reasons for this, mainly to do with our attitudes to a part of our
body that has let us down and the fear of repeating it all. Doctors advise
that while bleeding continues, intercourse should be avoided because of
the risk of infection.
|
